FAQ: Why Do I Keep Chasing Women Who Don’t Want Me Back?

Dude, what a brave question. 

The fact that you say you "keep" chasing women who don't want you back indicates that this has been a pattern. The fact that you've asked the question at all means that you're seeking an answer—which, at the very least, means you want to understand the root of the pattern. I'll take it a step further and imagine that with this understanding, you want to break the pattern, live more fully, and fulfill your desire for reciprocal love and connection.

I can't pretend to know exactly what you're feeling, but I can tell you that I have danced my own dance with unrequited love and have endured much beautiful suffering in its grips. It hurts so good. If we sat down for a whiskey or some tea, I'd tell you about the free-spirited French Canadian surfer chick who stole my heart in Montreal, or the…